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Don’t condemn the object of jealousy

The moment you start condemning another person, it means that there is a wound inside you that you are trying to cover up.


Don’t condemn the object of jealousy

 A small story:

A man was asked, ‘Do you believe in luck?’

He replied, ‘Of course! How else do you explain the success of people that you don’t like!’

Just by condemning the object of jealousy, you will not be liberated from jealousy itself because the moment you start condemning another person, it means that there is a wound inside you that you are trying to cover up, knowingly or unknowingly.

..trying to overcome the object of jealousy is not the solution.

By condemning the object of jealousy, you might be liberated from that particular object of jealousy, but you will simply get fixed on another object of jealousy, that’s all! It is like saying ‘sour grapes’ and moving on to another vineyard! So, trying to overcome the object of jealousy is not the solution. You need to work on the subject, that is, you.

The secret is that bliss is a quality that belongs to everyone.

The sage Patanjali*, the father of yoga*, says, ‘When somebody is blissful, feel blissful and friendly.’ The secret is that bliss is a quality that belongs to everyone. It is there for anyone to share, just like a flower’s fragrance spreads choicelessly and is available for everyone, like a beautiful sunrise that is there for anyone to enjoy, or like a beautiful piece of music available to everyone! You can choose to tune into bliss, and that is all that is needed to experience it!

Other’s sufferings worse than our own

Every day he would pray to god, ‘Everybody is so happy, why do only I have to suffer?’

A small story:

A man was feeling very burdened by his

suffering. Every day he would pray to god, ‘Everybody is so happy, why do only I have to suffer?’ One day, he was really depressed and prayed, ‘I am not able to bear my pain anymore. Please take it away! Even if I have to take someone else’s pain in exchange, I am ready to do that.’

That night he had a dream where he saw god telling everyone in his village to bring all their sufferings to Him. So everybody gathered their sufferings in big bags and they all rushed to god. Then god said, ‘Now you can keep your bags together around me.’ Everybody was very happy to get rid of their sufferings and dropped off their bags.

Then, as they had asked in their prayers, god said, ‘Ok, now you can take any bag.’ Suddenly, everybody including this man, rushed to take his own bag! Not only him, but all others were doing the same thing.

Nobody wanted to risk taking somebody else’s unknown suffering instead of their known!

For the first time, each one had seen others’ sufferings and they were glad their bag was not as big as those around them. Also, each person had become used to his own sufferings. Nobody wanted to risk taking somebody else’s unknown suffering instead of their known!

The man suddenly woke up and prayed to god, ‘Thank you for opening my eyes! I know what I have is good for me. That is why you have given my circumstances to me!’

Glossary:

* Patanjali – A sage of ancient India and author of Yoga Sutras, which is the foundation of modern day yoga.

* Yoga – Literally means ‘uniting’ of body-mind-spirit.

 

 

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